THE SIKH MARRIAGE CEREMONY
The couple and their parents stand up and take blessings from God, thereafter, the father of the bride places the fringe of the bridegrooms’ scarf in the hands of the bride, a gesture of responsibility to one another and the willingness to accept each other in the new phase of their lives.
The four shabads are recited from the Guru Granth Sahib composed by Guru Ram Das Ji, the fourth Guru, recorded on pages 773-774.
The bride and bridegroom both listen to the shabads and as the shabads are sung in turn they bow their heads to the Guru Granth Sahib accepting and promising to take their vows and to fulfil them. As the shabads are sung by the Ragis (musicians), the couple stand up and walks around the Guru Granth Sahib calling to God and the Congregation to witness their acceptance.
Marriage is the union of two souls and companionship for spiritual advancement. A transition and new phase of life being entered by the bride and bridegroom.
THE FIRST SHABAD
THE PROMISE TO LOVE EACH OTHER – Look to the Guru Granth Sahib for your guidance and remember to mediate the name of God and follow the path of truthful living and love from within your heart and keep faith in Waheguru and you will be blessed with happiness – Dedication.
THE SECOND SHABAD
THE PROMISE TO MERGE COMPLETELY AND DEVELOP AS ONE SOUL – Respect each other and dispel all fears and shares your happiness equal to your sorrows, Commitment.
THE THIRD SHABAD
THE PROMISE TO BE FAITHFULL –Speak to each other with sweetness and love and do not forget Waheguru and the Holy Congregation, and in your excitement keep control, Communication.
THE FOURTH SHABAD
THE PROMISE TO BE TOGETHER THROUGHOUT THE UPTURNS AND DOWNTURNS THAT LIFE WILL BRING – The wish of your hearts is solemnized in the presence of God and graces your existence throughout eternity.
Barjinderpal Kaur Lall